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Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Inappropriate Attachment to Objects

Yesterday, while giving a presentation to police officers going through the first day of C.I.T. training I gave my normal presentation. One of the topics I cover is the title of this entry, "Inappropriate Attachment to Objects" and I use the example of the soda can I wrote about in the chapter, "Small Things" from my book. While that story is quite strong, and may seem like an isolated example, I can experience this everyday.

Right now, sitting on my desk, is a box. Inside the box is my Rosetta Stone software that was going to be used to learn German so I could do my research project, "Relocation Theory". That project has been shelved until an unknown time and I'm okay with that as it would seem my job at home is much more important right now. However, inside that box, is the USB headset with microphone that is used so the program will know if the user is pronouncing whatever word they're trying to say correctly.

There are many headsets with microphones, and my dad has already supplied me with a replacement, but it's not the same. The replacement sounds a little bit better and is much more comfortable and yet something is missing. Much like the can I mention in my book the object has more meaning than just it's physical presence. For me, this headset represented the "what could be" aspect of my project. It also is tied to many late nights learning German and being somewhat creeped out by the expressions of the people on the pictures on the computer screen.

In my presentations to officers I stress this concept of the soda can because the attachment could be to anything for a person. I think we all have some sort of relationship to items because people keep family heirlooms and relics, but those should have meaning. For us on the spectrum it's items that you may see as trash, or a tool for daily use, but for me it can represent a person, friendship, what could be, what could have been, and every emotion in between.

Whoever said, "One man's trash is another man's treasure" might have been on the spectrum as this saying is true. Yes, it may be true, but perhaps treasure isn't a strong enough word for this headset that's about to go away back to Rosetta Stone was more than treasure to me, it was tied in with every positive emotion I could experience. But now it's going to find a new home where the person who may own will see it for what it is. It won't represent the possible freedom of an adventurous research project 6,000 miles from home as it will be a headset. Just a headset.

2 comments:

  1. Hello. I found a link to your blog on Facebook, and I clicked the link because I have a son with Aspergers, so any chance to better understand him is gratefully accepted. Having said that, there are so many instances of "classic aspergers moments" in my own life that I do sometimes think it was inevitable that he would have it.

    Anyway, I really wanted to say that your entry here rang so many bells for us. We have a "shiny collection" - a collection of wrappers and wrappings that he has pretty much finished collecting, but cannot let go of. They are of no use to anyone, some still have bits of candy attached, and he never looks at them. But nobody is allowed to throw them out! At least now I know he's not alone!

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  2. Hello. I found a link to your blog on Facebook, and I clicked the link because I have a son with Aspergers, so any chance to better understand him is gratefully accepted. Having said that, there are so many instances of "classic aspergers moments" in my own life that I do sometimes think it was inevitable that he would have it.

    Anyway, I really wanted to say that your entry here rang so many bells for us. We have a "shiny collection" - a collection of wrappers and wrappings that he has pretty much finished collecting, but cannot let go of. They are of no use to anyone, some still have bits of candy attached, and he never looks at them. But nobody is allowed to throw them out! At least now I know he's not alone!

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