I don't remember the wording of the questions that have got me to say this answer, but when I say it the entire room seems to either nod in unison or parents will look at their son or daughter and just nod with a grin. It's a simple saying with a very complex and odd logic behind it. What is it? It's, "I think therefore you should know."
I may have blogged about this before (I don't remember what I write) but if I have I wanted to expand on this because this can be a frustrating trait about us, but this type of mindset is the essence of Asperger Syndrome.
When we need or want something I have a hard time asking for it and also I assume you already know it. I can get a bit "snippy" when I have to state what I want because I feel you should already know. It takes some deep concentration to step back and realize that what I am thinking is not known by those around me.
What makes this more difficult is that asking for something has a high degree of difficulty. Many thoughts come with asking for something and there are many "chains of thought" (chains of thought is a new concept) that may go like this; I need this, but the person I ask for it may get mad with me that I need something. Will I ask for it correctly? But they might get mad. If they get mad I won't know how to react therefore why should I ask?
When wanting something there is a real problem on both fronts. One, asking for something is something that starts a chain of thought that ends up convincing me not to ask, and secondly, the other person should already know what I want.
If the other person does know what I want it eliminates any chance of a chain being formed. Chains are not pleasant and occur at a deep level of the conscious. Chains try to preserve the self by avoiding anything that can't be judged.
I am sure my parents got frustrated with me when I would know what I wanted, but could not express it. Truly I was afraid, and still am, to state my needs. A round of the classic "guessing game" would ensue and when the right answer was told to me I could say yes, but I was unable to make the first move and state what that was. As aggravating as it may have been for my parents, it was sad for me because I knew what I wanted, but was afraid.
During those guessing games I was also wondering why it was taking them so long to choose the right answer. I too would get frustrated because they didn't know what I wanted. Writing this I can see how just confusing this is; I know what I want and you should know too, but even though you should know it I can't ask for it.
Over the next few months I want to expand on this "I think" concept and also I will give more insight into "The Chains of Thought" as I hope to give you a insight into the thought process and the reasoning and logic behind the potential actions of behavior.
As for me, I am headed home as I am in the office right now (first time since May 21st) and will be headed back to Joplin tonight.