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Tuesday, July 31, 2012

A Drive to NC

Continuing on the Asperger Everyday string of posts I wanted to share a story from yesterday.

So yesterday I rode to North Carolina with two other people from USAC and an usual thing happened; I came alive. This is something that has always been the case with me as since I was little I always have conversed more in the car.

This was the first time in a while that I had a situation like this and it felt so freeing. The drive might have been long and we might have got in at a very late hour, but I was cherishing every minute as easy conversation doesn't come easy for me.

If I could I would stay in those moments on car rides. Imagine having a situation where things come easier and over processing is minimized. How great of a place would that be? I don't know if I could put words to it but I would do almost anything to stay in state of being.

What is it about being in a car that opens the floodgates of conversation? For me, I think, it the length of time confined with the same people. It takes me a while in a social setting to feel comfortable and
I won't really converse until I am comfortable. Because of this, and just the way socializing works, most people don't give me the time I need. Perhaps that's an unfair statement as it isn't that they are purposely not giving me time but maybe it's more they think I'm not interested in speaking because of the signs I am showing. In a long car ride though there is plenty of time to get comfortable. Also, no new people are going to jump into the conversation. This is an important fact because changing the conversation situation by adding a person resets my level of comfortableness down to 0 and the whole process has to begin again.

So that was my yesterday. Today starts a string of what I think will be five race days in a row. I'm anxious to get home though and next week I've got several presentations across the state of Missouri so I can't wait for that!

3 comments:

  1. Have fun and don't exhaust yourself too much. :)

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  2. One thing I like about car rides also is being able to look at the road or out the window when you talk. You don't really have to make eye contact when you're in a car driving down the road. Sure, you occasionally glance at the person you are talking to, but it is not like other settings where everyone is sitting or standing around looking at you when they talk to you. And even better is if it is night time and dark. That way you don't see as much so your brain isn't processing as much.

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  3. Being in a car is different from being in the community. Yes, some aspects of socializing is the same. But, if you are in the community, you are expected to be more spontaneous in conversations if something pops up. However, in a car, you may not need to talk if you don't want to- you can sleep, look at the scenery, listening to music, etc. That said, if you are the "co-pilot", you are supposed to keep the driver company by talking to the driver so that he/she is still awake.

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