Sunday, July 11, 2010

Day 8: What I have learned so far

As I drove home from Indianapolis this morning I began to ponder what I had learned so far. First, and this is a big first, I realized I don't remember what people look like because I don't look at people at all. I was shocked and amazed at how much detail there is to each person.

Yes, I do know everyone is different, but I never took the time to look at the person other than the extreme edges of a person. I have always been horrible at guessing someone's age and this is probably the reason as well.

I also know that the avoidance of eye contact is a reflex. Was this a learned trait or have I always been like this? I am unsure, but avoiding eye contact is the same as breathing to me, it's done without thought.

I also have learned that making eye contact is vital to establish a relationship. I never knew what the big deal was until I wore the sunglasses and saw a new dimension of niceties and conversations. I always assumed since eye contact doesn't matter in my book it didn't it anyone else's. I guess this is the first time I have ever been wrong :)

Now, let's talk about what I still don't know. I don't know which way contact is scary. I still want to know if it is that I am looking at you, or is it that you are looking at me? I really hope to understand this is the coming weeks.

Sorry for the short post today, but I just spent two hours writing the final chapter to my 3rd book and I am tired from the drive.


  1. I am so happy to realize you do not have the condition that doesn't allow you to remember faces. You can and that is wonderful.

    This is a wonderful experiment!

  2. Thank you. I am learning so much about myself from this experiment of yours. I didn't expect that when I started following your blog.

  3. I know what drives me crazy about eye contact, that someone else is looking at me, and I feel like I'm nude... I also can't concentrate in what the other person is saying if I'm making eye contact. Another thing is recognizing faces, it's really hard for me to do it and I think that now is harder than ever, maybe I'm getting old, ha ha ha... Thanks for your blog, it's really great to read that another person has experiences similar to mine.